It’s OK To Not Feel OK

I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship. I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings.
Mahatma Gandhi

We all have our good and our not so good days. That is part of life. But in short time life has changed in a way no one has ever experienced. And though it has changed more for some than for others, it has changed for all of us. We all need to adjust to this new situation and the uncertainty it brings. And that can be challenging.

We need to keep in mind that this is not normal life and we shouldn’t treat it as if it is. It is important to take good care of yourself and keep being grateful for the good things we still have in our life. And… it is also ok to have moments when you don’t feel ok. And it is also ok to say that you’re not feeling ok. That is also taking care of yourself. Only when we acknowledge our inner world, can we work on ourselves.

But in our “mac happiness” society, we don’t like to be confronted with the “ugly” side of life, because that makes us uncomfortable and we don’t like uncomfortable. We want things to be nice and clean and happy. So, when you say you don’t feel ok, people will often try to diminish your feelings and/or try to make you feel happy.

The thing is, we do have those feelings. We can try to walk away from them, but they tend to catch up with us sooner or later. So, the best thing to do is to acknowledge them and confront them head-on. And when you speak about it, you don’t need someone to tell you “things are the way they are”, we all know that. And neither do you need someone to try and cheer you up, like it’s not ok to have those feelings. What you need is just someone who says: “I’m sorry, that sucks”. Just an acknowledgement of your feelings and that they are ok to have.

So, let’s be kind to ourselves and others and be ok with not feeling ok. And keep an eye on ourselves and others to see if it doesn’t develop into something more serious. Take care of yourself and others.