Last year in kindergarten Lisa and her classmates made a book with the title: When I grow up… Every kindergartner got his/her own page in the book.
On her page of the book Lisa wrote: I want to be a princess. I will have a long dress (okay, her exact words were: I want to be a prisess. I wil have a long dras).
It’s wonderful to see the uncomplicated dreams of children, not being limited by all kinds of beliefs about why they wouldn’t be able to become whatever it is they desire. Unfortunately most of us lose the ability to dream freely and adapt all kinds of limiting beliefs that other people in our environment (sometimes with the best intentions) impose on us.
Lately I have been thinking a lot about what it is I want to become. First of all in terms of work. I would like to work part time again, but I have no clue what I would like to do. But also in the sense of: what kind of person is it that I would like to be. And I notice that even when I try to just think of what it is I would like to do or how I would like to be(have), I automatically come up with all kinds of limiting beliefs telling me that’s not within my reach. This is one of the reasons I do NLP, to learn some tools to get a different mindset. Some people are naturally very good at it, and some, like me, have to learn it. But the good news is, you can learn it. Sometimes with simple techniques (which does not necessarily mean it is easy to do).
One of the things I really like is to try and say things in a positive way. I used to say my glass is half empty and sometimes I still do, but now, when I notice that I do so, I rephrase it and say my glass is half full. Also I try to say the things that I do want instead of the things that I don’t want. I used to tell my daughter: don’t forget, mommy and daddy love you, now I tell her: always remember, mommy and daddy love you. It’s just a small difference but I really like it.
So, I think, that maybe when I grow up, I want to be a coach and help people access their resources and hand them tools, so they will be able to improve their quality of life. For now I’ve decided to just learn as much from my NLP training as I can and share my journey with you guys.
And you, do you know what/how you want to be?